Abortionist to Pregnant Woman “I Mean, if for Some Reason that Doesn’t Happen, Then We Have to Take Them out in Pieces…”
As horrible as this might sound, we found ourselves wishing these twins away.
We considered a reduction for about 30 seconds. (That’s essentially an abortion of one twin, not both.) If you thought that IVF involved playing God, a reduction felt beyond brazen — Machiavellian, even. Give us a reason, we thought, as we had the twins tested for genetic anomalies. None came.
Two blessings, two bundles of joy. How could you not be happy, you ask? Of course I’m sympathetic to people who can’t get pregnant, or who spend a couple of years trying IVF after IVF. But having kids is a selfish endeavor, and in these cases it’s all very relative and highly personal. In our case, my wife and I know better than to think that life with three children is going to be perfect.
An anonymous dad to be. Selfish to the bone. Yeah it is easy for me to judge as I never had twins. But the point is that having children isn’t a vanity thing. It is hard work. In many ways twins are somewhat easier because they will keep each other occupied as they grow and mature. I do have friends that have twins, and not one of them has ever expressed anything even remotely close to this. We are really in sad shape as a society.
Seriously, I can think of four woman off the top of my head that cannot have children. They would give almost anything to be in this “mess”.
RTR if you dare. They were hoping for some genetic issues to justify aborting one. Wow, I am sure the children will be happy as all get out to hear that story one day.
We can talk about gun control until the cows come home, but it won’t really help what is ailing this society. I know very few people who are so militant about gun rights that they feel certain restrictions should be placed on who is able to purchase a gun. I know that some exist, but they are the minority. Most will agree that the mentally ill and people with criminal histories shouldn’t be allowed to have guns. The disagreements come on what other restrictions should be in place for law-abiding citizens. We have laws in place that should protect us from criminals and the insane. Those laws should be followed.
What we never really discuss after a tragedy as what occurred in Newtown, is where we place the value of human life in the grand scheme of things in our daily lives and our society. I am not even going to into the abortion discussion, because most people are immovable on this topic, and will remain that way, while there is always room for an epiphany, those are usually very personal episodes.
What I would like to talk about is the role of life in general. Recently a young mother was pregnant for the second time. She says that she had no idea that she was so. One night while on a family outing at the circus, she grabs her daughter and goes to use the lady’s room. She sent a text to another family member to come get her daughter due to stomach issues. She then proceeds to give birth in that bathroom stall. She leaves her newborn son in the toilet, surrounded by his own blood and presumably his placenta, and goes home. The baby boy was found approximately 90 minutes later up to his neck in water and at a temperature of 85 degrees. Thank heavens the little boy is doing fine and is said to be developing normally.
Jessica Blackham, now 26, has given up her parental rights to the baby. I am sure by now he has been adopted, presumably to a loving family that realizes how precious this little boy really is.
Jessica has been judged in a court of law and has been sentenced. One year of house arrest, three years of probation, counseling, and faces random drug tests. Once she finishes her one year of house arrest, her five-year prison will be forgotten. So let me get this straight, she left a helpless newborn baby in a toilet full of blood and gets no jail time.
‘Miss Blackham, you are not standard fare up here and I think your attorney’s assessment that you will not be back is accurate,’
So said the judge who normally deals with crack and meth heads, reports show it took the judge a full couple of minutes to sentence her. He thought about her sentence that carefully.
While it is true that she had no prior criminal record that doesn’t mean that absolves her from her crimes. She left that baby to die. Her own flesh and blood. She says that she has no memory of giving birth and denies even knowing she was pregnant. Now, didn’t she gain any weight during this pregnancy? Most woman gain somewhere between 20 and 30 pounds. Didn’t anyone else in her family notice that? If she was hiding weight gain, wouldn’t that fly in the face of her testimony? Didn’t she feel that baby kick? Did she not realize that she wasn’t getting her periods anymore? While it is true that some women will have some bleeding during their entire pregnancy, that is pretty rare. I mean this is a woman who was pregnant once before and was 25 at the time of the birth.
Is it really so hard to believe that our children are growing up without a moral compass? Is is really so hard to understand that they don’t see life as sacred and precious? This judge didn’t and he is a grown man. This woman didn’t and she is already a mother of another child. The only people who seemed to understand the importance of the that baby boy’s life was the cleaning crew who found him and the doctors who saved his life that early morning. This baby has been further dehumanized by this sentance. His mother threw him away like he was trash.
A baby was left to die in toilet filled with blood, other bodily fluids, his own after birth, and water and the punishment is that she gets to sit in the comfort of her own home for a year. She can watch whatever television show she wants, she will sleep in her own bed, she can use the internet, she can have guests over. Heck I guess if she wanted to she could get pregnant again if she is so inclined. That isn’t a punishment. Especially when you consider that she lives in state that has a law that if you leave your newborn at a hospital, church, or other safe environment, you will not be prosecuted. She could have picked up this baby and dropped him at any number of places and choose instead to leave him in filth to die.
You can take away more and more rights on gun ownership in this country all you want, until you change this, it won’t accomplish a damn thing.
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19-year-old Dylan Kuhn killed his six month old daughter, Sailor, by throwing her into her crib after a night of celebrating Halloween. Sailor was doing what many 6 months do, being fussy and crying. That is what babies do at times. Every parent has been there. A child that no matter what you try that just cries. It seems like you are going to lose your mind when you are dealing with it. You hold them, you rock them, you sing to them, all the while you are praying for it to stop. What you don’t do is slam them into the crib so hard that they die of head trauma.
Dylan’s first reaction was to lie to the police, he told them that little Sailor fell off the couch onto the floor landing on her head. The injuries suggested that she landed on a soft, but unyielding surface. Something that a floor is not, but a baby mattress is. He then admitted he “aggressively” put her into her crib after yelling at her to shut up.
What did the judge do? He gave him four months in prison. That’s right. Not even one month for every month that little Sailor lived. But, oh boy, he is on probation for four years and cannot be in the presence of children under the age of ten unsupervised, he even has to take a parenting class! That will teach him.
Why the sentence you ask? Well, Judge Douglas Walker decided, in his infinite wisdom, that Dylan may become a hardened criminal if he spends too much time in jail. He believes that our jails harden people.
‘I am giving you the opportunity. Make the best of this opportunity, if nothing else, to honor your daughter’s memory,’
Shouldn’t he have been honoring his daughter before he slammed her into her crib yelling to shut up? Didn’t she deserve more than that? I think our prison systems leave a great deal to be desired. I don’t think it is right that people get raped in prisons on a regular basis. I also understand that studies have been done that suggest when the prison system decides on where they locate a prisoner that someone who is on the bubble and ends up in a maximum security prison they will likely become more violent than those who go the medium security prisons. We also don’t do enough to help criminals who have paid their debts to society to integrate back into society, and getting jobs that pay a good wage can be more difficult. That is all true. But do we fix those problems by letting a baby killer go?
It seems to me that none of those will be fixed for Dylan, let alone anyone else. Dylan will still be a felon. He will still stand convicted of manslaughter. That is still going to follow him for the rest of his life. But the family seemed to be behind him. It also seems to me that judge could have easily sentenced him to minimum security prison if the desire was to keep him from being “hardened”.
‘I am so worried that if you send him away he will shut down, I don’t know why it went this far. It was an accident.’
‘He loved Sailor, the times I observed him with Sailor he was great. I am not exactly sure what happened here.’
Dylan’s baby mamma April Coleman. Where she was when the baby was being slammed was not made clear.
Sailor Kuhn was killed by the hands of one of the people who was supposed to love her the most, to protect her, and to be the person she could trust. But in the liberal la la land, her life wasn’t worth very much at all. Justice for this little girl was sacrificed at the altar of belief that prisons are bad, prisons create criminals, and letting him slide will some how change all that.
Imagine my surprise when I read this on HuffPo. Conservatives have been saying this for years and we get called names and made fun of.
Sex is an expression of love. If it’s used for anything else — to try to get approval or love or to try to feel alive — it won’t feel good for either of you in the long run. You may experience a physical sensation of pleasure or an emotional high of feeling wanted or desired, but in the aftermath of sex you’re likely to feel empty, lonely, and possibly used.
It is time we start telling tweens and young women (young men as well) the truth. We have mountains and mountains of cultural lies that we keep passing down to the next generation. One being that a baby is just a bunch of cells. If you think about it, we are all just a bunch of cells, granted more developed than a baby (in most cases, anyway) but nonetheless, there is no way around this, we all started that way.
We also tell girls that they can be sexually active and there is no price to pay for that. Unplanned pregnancy is no longer a big deal, get an abortion. You can always take the morning after pill, you can go to the doctor and get a shot and that will be the magic thing that keeps you from getting pregnant. We don’t tell this young women what a soul killer abortion can be. The guilt and the regret that many women live with for the rest of their lives.
Do parents today still have those talks with their daughters about how boys are sometimes only looking for one thing? I know my mother had that talk with me. My mother also told me some other things that I would never repeat to another young girl. But she came from a different generation and I am the youngest child. But, I will tell you it did work with me. I have always been very conservative when it comes to certain things. There was no way on God’s green earth I was going to go home and tell my parents I was pregnant. I behaved accordingly.
But we do need to get back to sending this message. While sex may feel good on any given night with any given person, long term it isn’t good for you. A truly enjoyable sex life is about connecting with someone, loving someone, wanting to share yourself and your life with that person. It isn’t about scratching an itch.
Most people also don’t know the truth about what creates great sex. The popular message says that great sex is a function of technique and frequency, but this is a cultural lie. The truth is that great sex is a function of connection, first with yourself and then with your partner. In other words, when you feel alive inside your own skin and connected to your partner’s essence, then you can meet each other sexually in a way that will feel fulfilling for both of you
The article is really about getting engaged, but it has some great lessons. Read the entire thing here.
But it got us thinking about how the more we treat fetuses like people—including them in our family photo shoots, tagging them on our Facebook walls, giving them their own Twitter accounts—the harder it will be to deny that they are people when the next, say,personhood amendment comes up, with legislators and activists arguing that “the unborn child” inside a pregnant woman’s womb should have the same rights as the living among us.
Allison Benedikt, Slate writer, feminist, and a woman without a soul.
That’s right ladies and Gents we wouldn’t want people to think that babies are people, would we now?
Read the whole sad thing here.
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Avery Lynn Canahuati passed away on Monday. She was a little shy of 6 months old. She suffered from a rare genetic disorder Spinal Muscular Atrophy, the #1 genetic disorder that causes death in children under 2. She was diagnosed on 4/6/12. She lived less than a month after her family received the news.
Her remarkable parents decided to create a “bucket list” for their precious baby. Instead of crying and cursing God, they decided to give Avery a life as whole as possible. They had all these dreams for their baby girl; as every parent does. But they had little time, but they decided to make the best of what they were given. The most recent blog post announces the death of their precious baby.
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