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  • just a conservative girl 10:07 AM on 05/20/2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: divorce, equality, feminism, financial settlements, sally, shepard   

    Sheri Shepard’s Divorce and Feminism 

    Social media is all a flutter over the impending divorce and custody case of The View’s Sheri Shepard and Lamar Sally.  Sally filed for legal separation and shortly thereafter filed for not only divorce, but custody of the child that is currently unborn and being carried by a surrogate mother.  By getting custody he will likely receive (and rightly so, I might add) child support.  Many women are calling foul.  He is just some gold digger after her money.

    Apparently they did sign a prenup and in case of divorce in the first five years of marriage (they have only been married about three years) he gets very little of her income or assets.  But this is something that happens all the time with women who marry successful men who have assets and money that are larger than their own.   Women file for divorce and expect large sums of money in spousal support.  I know a man who is divorced and his former wife wanted monthly spousal support, the house, the kids, as well as child support.  They made virtually the same income so why would he have to pay spousal support?  In the end she didn’t get spousal support, but she did get everything else she asked for and then went off to start a new life with the man she cheated with.

    If women are looking for equal treatment, than this should actually be celebrated not mocked.  She knew he made less money than her when she married him.  She knew she had assets that greatly exceeded his.  This was a choice that she made.  No one forced her down the aisle.

    I get really tired of hearing from women that all they want is be treated equally to men then have the nerve to call foul when that is exactly what happens.  Women marry for money all the time.  We have seen it over and over again.  When the marriage ends, they expect large amounts of cash from the guy to continue the “lifestyle they have become accustomed” to.  Look at some of these celebrity/sports divorces and the very large settlements that women get.  Yet, that isn’t what we are hearing in this case:

    “In Sally’s case he is pathetic and not what I would classify as a MAN! Where is his damn money? She made her money now he wants hers. Spousal support, he is a punk!”

    I didn’t hear women saying things like that when Elin Woods left Tiger and received a large settlement.  Granted he was cheating on her (and yes that is an understatement for his behavior), but in most states divorce is no fault, so that doesn’t matter.  When Jerry Hall divorced Mick Jagger she is estimated at getting $25 million, this is a woman who had a very successful modeling career and made her own money.  She was far from a pauper.

    This is equality folks.  Divorce is ugly and money almost always becomes an issue.  Whomever the main breadwinner is the other spouse is going to be looking to get their hands on it.  If women want true equality stop complaining that men who marry, then divorce women, who are more well off than them are doing the same thing that women have been doing for generations.  This is exactly what feminism has called for.

     
  • just a conservative girl 10:47 AM on 03/28/2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , cancer, , feminism, running, self magazine   

    Another Magazine About “Empowering” Women is Anything But – Self Magazine Beclowns Itself By Poking Fun at a Cancer Survivor 

    Monika Allen, a brain cancer survivor and marathon runner, was asked by Self Magazine if they could use a photo of her wearing a Wonder Woman shirt and tutu while she was running a marathon.  Ms. Allen was happy about the use of the photo, that is until the issue came out.  

    Along with her photo Self put this little editorial

     

    “A racing tutu epidemic has struck NYC’s Central Park, and it’s all because people think these froufrou skirts make you run faster. Now, if you told us they made people run from you faster, maybe we would believe it.”


    Nice.  Not only was the woman undergoing chemotherapy at the time she ran this marathon, she made these tutu’s herself.  You see she makes and sells them, then gives the money to charity.  She donates money to Girls on the Run.  A charity that helps young girls, aged 8 – 13, engage in physical activities and gain confidence in themselves by learning to enjoy running.  While people make think that isn’t that big of a deal, running competitively can transform your self confidence.  When you start doing better you not only gain confidence but want to continue to improve yourself.  The program ends for these young girls by competing in a 5K race.  It is a charity that teaches not only self confidence, but also teaches them discipline and goal setting.  All qualities that young women will need to navigate the world as they get older.  


    Instead of Self doing any kind of reporting they just make fun of the woman.  I do not give them a pass by saying well maybe they didn’t know she had cancer.  They are a magazine for pity sakes, they could have asked the question.  But no, they just dissed the woman and her outfit.  Now, would I wear that outfit?  Not likely.  But that doesn’t mean I get to make fun of someone who does.  I have a few friends that run in marathons.  It is very hard work to get your body into shape to do this.  That is even without health issues.  Just imagine how much harder it is when your brain has cancer in it and you are undergoing chemotherapy?


    Self Magazine has released a statement:

    In a statement to NBC 7, SELF apologized “for the association of her picture in any way other than to support her efforts to be healthy.”
    “Of course if tutus make you run with a smile on your face or with a sense of purpose or community, then they are indeed worth wearing, for any race,” the statement read.

    In the first issue of Self, the Editor in Chief made this statement:

    An extraordinary spirit and energy are emerging in women today. Fitness is the fuel. We have acquired a strong appetite for the full experience of life—the exhilaration of the outdoors, the challenge and success of professional work, the honest enjoyment of sex. Selfwill be a guide to the vitality we need to do all the things we want to do.

    They certainly have strayed a long way from that mission statement.  


    Sadly, the apology is of the non apology variety that is more about covering their own ass.  I doubt they have learned anything from this incident.  Yet one more reason I don’t buy into all the hype about “empowering” women.   This is what they did to a woman and are only now sorry because they found out she had cancer.  They never bothered to ask where she got the tutu or why she was wearing it.  They just wanted to be catty.  Well Meow to you Self.  


    If you want to support Ms. Allen, you can find her facebook page here.  


     
    • lawrunner 11:10 AM on 03/28/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thank you for pointing this out. There are far too many snarky “journalists” out there who are constantly demeaning people in the name of entertainment or as a way of making themselves out to be experts in the fields of beauty, health or fitness. This writer is obviously one of those who decided that a tutu said everything about the person wearing it because of their own narrow beliefs about what makes a runner or what makes a person dedicated to what they’re doing. Ms. Allen has my admiration and support. Thank you again.

  • just a conservative girl 4:12 PM on 02/11/2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , , feminism, , , , threatening behavior,   

    Feminist Blogger Now In Fear – Men May Have Discovered That We Are On To Them 

    A “radical feminist” blogger wrote a post a while back on how all “Penis in Vagina” or PIV intercourse is rape.  Of course myself and others who read this dribble rebutted and or made fun of the post.  Well, that caused more traffic at her blog.  Most bloggers are happy to get additional traffic.  Isn’t the entire point of writing these posts is getting others to read them?  Not in her case.

    When men view our blogs in such large numbers, it’s a threat. They’re not just looking at it, they view it with the intent of harming radical feminists and women in general. They do it to collect information so they know what next to do to prevent women from going there. They batter radfem work in public for all women to see and show the result of their verbal and written battering as an example of what will await women if they do, think or say the same. They write nasty and threatening comments, that in order to trash, I have to read at least a few words of. Even though it doesn’t hurt my feelings, they are still harmful and inevitably affect my thoughts.

    How exactly does she know the gender of the those making the hits?  I need to update my analytics, I don’t these type of break-downs immediately.  Anyhoo, at least some are men.  Those men are hateful beasts that only want to destroy.

    85,000, that’s the maximum number of views I had in one day a couple of weeks ago when the liberals and MRAs circulated my PIV blogpost for punishment. Unlike a normal blogger, attracting 85,000 hits isn’t something I want to celebrate. It’s threatening: you know they’re after you, it only means you’ve hit men’s radar and you have no idea what they plan to do. Will they attempt to hack into my blog? Will they try to find info about me? The kinds of thought this leads me to is 85,000 men going after me in real life. Probably a bit less if you discount the women. If that happened, how on earth could I hide from tens of thousands of men?

    There is no denying there is a whole lot of crazy out there, but hey isn’t this type of talk adding to it?  I mean does she really believe that men are worried about her getting the word out that having intercourse is rape that they want to silence her?  We. Must. Not. Let. This. Out.  She must be stopped at all costs.  She is letting out their little secret.  They only want intercourse to subjugate us.  We are nothing without them and they must be allowed to continue to rule the world.  Oh my.

    All this is gaslighting and bullying, men’s lies are meant to sound convincing. They convince with the use of force, ordering me to comply to their view by using an authoritarian, terrorising tone. ‘How dare you see otherwise. You’re crazy. You’re a bully. Etc.’ Which is why it works so well to instil self-doubt because it’s a mindfuck, it’s thought-blocking, it’s also an assault and it creates fear and willingness to appease to avoid further assaults. Brainwashing works through a mix of mind assaults, terror and constant repetition of a same message until it’s hammered into our brain, which is psychological violence. 85,000 views and hundreds of trolling comments is in effect a blitzkrieg brainwashing attack by men and male-colonised women. Hundreds of men and their pawns attempting to reprogram the minds of deviant female bloggers, women who don’t comply and who break through men’s myths and lies.

    It’s interesting that Cathy Brennan’s response to the whole thing led a commenter, Tracy, to comment about what it meant on reformism: I hadn’t framed it in that way (see discussion herehere and here). I’ve been thinking about it for a while but haven’t had the time to comment on it properly so I’ll continue my thoughts in this post. Tracy defined CB’s post as reformist to the extent that CB doesn’t name the agent, that is why men isolating us from one another is so dangerous, why it’s so important to huddle together in this circumstance [because men are waiting in line to rape and kill us]. CB asks us to take safety measures against a threat -men- that she won’t name, and at the same time treats men as an audience to appease, as if they would take note and change their behaviour accordingly. Tracy named that gaslighting because it’s acting as if two opposites (truth vs. omission/lie; threat vs. safety) were the same. Of course it’s not CB’s fault because she herself is victim of it.

    Men are waiting in line to rape and kill us?  Really?  I have never seen nor heard of such a line.  May I make a suggestion, if such a line exists outside of your home, move.  My neighborhood is quite safe.  No men actively trying to rape you on a daily basis around.

    I get that most women that call themselves a “feminist” call this thinking silly.  The problem is that this is the logical conclusion to that thinking.  Men are bad.  Women are victims.  Women are treated so unfairly that the government must step in to  protect them.  If the entire belief system is based on that women are tough enough and smart enough to be like just like men why in the world would you need the government to step in?

    Life will never be fair nor will women and men ever be totally equal.  There are differences between men and women that just are.  Most men are stronger.  Our upper body strength isn’t what there is.  Of course there are women who are stronger than men, but generally speaking that isn’t the case.  There was just a scientific study released that our brains are hardwired differently.  It shows up in the scans. We are built this way.  It is biological.

    What really gets my goat about feminism is the fact that the majority of the work for women and “fairness” is done in the industrialized west.  If they spend the majority of their time talking about how in some cultures the physical abuse of women is not only commonplace, but perfectly acceptable it would be different.  In some countries, such as Afghanistan, women were beaten in public for having one strand of hair showing.  The same still happens in Iran.  Some women are not allowed to work.  To heck with the fact that their husband or main provider has been killed or is missing for any reason, she still is not allowed to get a job to support herself.  At least not without the threat of jail, physical abuse, up to and including the threat of death.  I don’t hear these topics being discussed much in the world of feminism.

    Feminism also makes great assumptions about men that I take issue with.  Why do these women think that men don’t feel bad about working long hours and being away from their children?  Do they think that they don’t care that they miss the school plays?  Do they honestly believe that men don’t get wanky when the house needs work?  It is assumed that they don’t feel overwhelmed by a weekend of yard work, soccer games, shopping, and whatever else their particular chores end up being.  I am sorry but I find that very hard to believe.

    I know plenty of men who feel just as overwhelmed as women do when it comes to using their time most efficiently to get everything they want done accomplished.  I also know men who are stay at home dads, so it is their job to clean, to cook, to do laundry, and whatever else needs to be done around the house all the while taking care of the kids.  It is simply a silly assertion that men don’t feel the same type of things that women do.  We all feel a certain amount of guilt in our lives.  We all question our choices from time to time.  I don’t think I have ever met a parent, male or female, that doesn’t wonder if they could have done certain things differently.  That don’t dwell, even temporarily, on the mistakes that we all make when raising children.  They don’t come with a handbook, it is trial by fire.  That is especially true with the first one.

     Just because we make different choices in many instances it doesn’t mean that men don’t have the same type of emotions that women do.  One of the main differences is that men tend to keep these things to themselves.  They don’t dwell on them in the same way that some women tend to do.   Many men look at this as part of life and complaining about it makes them “less manly”.   Men deal with them differently, that doesn’t mean that they don’t feel it.  That is what feminism today says.  That somehow men are emotionless and guilt free.  They live lives that they actively believe makes them superior to women.  A very silly and uncaring assertion.

     

     
    • Kaufman's Kavalkade 4:20 PM on 02/11/2014 Permalink | Reply

      She seems insane actually.

    • Deekaman 4:24 PM on 02/11/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Wow. Just wow. One has to wonder what experience(s) drove her to this point. The point where she sees all men as evil, as a a threat to be reckoned with, to fear and loathe. I love women. When I am with them, I want to serve them, not own them. I want them to feel beautiful, wanted, adored. Apparently that is “rape”.

      • genderneutrallanguage 12:48 AM on 02/12/2014 Permalink | Reply

        It doesn’t take any wondering to know what drove her to this point, it’s feminism. This is unsugar coated feminism. The only real difference between this nut and Feminism101 is how well they hide the crazy. Both are saying the same things, but sites like Feminism101 is more creative with euphemisms and metaphor to avoid the obvious balls out crazy this one spouts.

        Really, this is what I see when I read almost anything written by a feminist.

        • just a conservative girl 1:00 AM on 02/12/2014 Permalink | Reply

          I actually enjoy reading Camille Paglia. I normally disagree with what she writes and her conclusions, but every so often I do agree with her. To me she is one of the “feminists” that gets it. American and European women are not the issues anymore. It is the women who live in non industrailized countries that are facing real issues. We have it made in comparison.

  • just a conservative girl 11:43 PM on 01/31/2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , feminism, free bleeding, , tampons,   

    Another Crazy Feminist on Twitter – Tampons are a form of Rape 

    free bleedtampons as rape

     
    • Alan Branfman 11:46 PM on 01/31/2014 Permalink | Reply

      It’s a bloody lie!

    • Robin H 10:22 PM on 02/02/2014 Permalink | Reply

      OMG! These people are loony! Are maxi-pads also a form of oppression? Maybe we should just go back to using cut up rags like they did in the 1800′s? Were women freer then?

    • theraineyview 10:22 AM on 04/22/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Too. Much. Coffee.

  • just a conservative girl 5:36 PM on 01/27/2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , feminism, glass,   

    An Open Letter to Amy Glass 

    Amy Glass, who I am assuming is a feminist, wrote a blog post entitled I look down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I’m Not Sorry.  Now, I think that she and I agree that not every person, whether it be man or woman should become a spouse, let alone a parent.  Neither of these tasks are easy and some people just don’t have the capabilities of doing it well.  She seems to think that getting married and having children is the easiest thing in the world:

     Having kids and getting married are considered life milestones. We have baby showers and wedding parties as if it’s a huge accomplishment and cause for celebration to be able to get knocked up or find someone to walk down the aisle with. These aren’t accomplishments, they are actually super easy tasks, literally anyone can do them. They are the most common thing, ever, in the history of the world. They are, by definition, average. And here’s the thing, why on earth are we settling for average?

    If these things were so easy why do we see the skyrocketing rates of people using dating sites and fertility clinics?  Yes, it is the easiest thing in the world to go out and date and find that person who actually makes your life feel more complete.  The person you can be totally honest with, even when you know they aren’t going to like what you have to say is the easiest thing in the world to find.  I mean just open up your front door and the lines of people to choose from is a massive one.

    I would love for her to go and say that to woman who has health problems that make it impossible for her to conceive.  Go talk to the couples who spend virtually their entire life savings to have fertility treatments to make the dream of being a parent come true and see what they have to say.  Once they get done slapping her silly they may have calmed down enough to laugh in her face.  Getting pregnant would seem like an easy task, but for many it is Mission Impossible.  Go sit with a woman who is doing everything under the sun to get pregnant when her period arrives and watch the tears and the feelings of inadequacy that she haunted by. Talk to a man who finds out his swimmers don’t do the job that God and biology intended them to do.  Many men that I know that are having problems conceiving don’t want to get tested, even though the test for the man is much more simple, straightforward, and far less invasive.

    Go and talk to the woman who does want to be married and have a family but is in her thirties and tell her it is an easy task that “literally anyone can do them”.  Some people who remain unmarried aren’t that way by choice.  That is their reality and they eventually make the best of it, or one would hope.  Many married couples that don’t have children, aren’t childless by choice.  That is the fate they were dealt and become the best Aunties and Uncles that they can be to their siblings and friends kids.

      You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.

    What makes her think that women without a husband and children are exceptional?  I work with a woman who was never married nor did she have children.  She works two jobs and barely supports herself.  She is on public assistance in the form of food stamps.  She is bitter woman who is angry, especially when she says out loud that most of her problems she created for herself with the choices she made in life.  The simple act of not getting married and becoming a parent isn’t an automatic entry into the world of exceptionalism.

    Is a woman who gives up  on the idea of marriage and family to become a professional woman automatically exceptional?  Say this woman is the VP of marketing for some large international firm and is really good at her job but has no family to share this with as she ages more exceptional than the stay at home mom who raised a child to become one of those teachers.  You know the one that I am talking about.  The teacher that really affects a child and helps that child see something in themselves that they wouldn’t have otherwise.  We all had that teacher.  I know in my case I had several.  The most remarkable thing about that teacher is that they didn’t just give that light to one child, they gave it to many.  One of my high school reunions just recently passed, I am not going to say which one, but one of my “that teacher” attended the get together.  Just judging by the people who hugged him and the amount of photos taken of him that splashed across my Facebook page the next day shows it wasn’t just me that looked at him as “that teacher”.  He helped hundreds, if not thousands, of young adults feel better about themselves and find their own way in the world.  Isn’t the woman who put the energy into raising such a man just as exceptional?  I say yes she is.

    Obviously Ms. Glass has no children.  Otherwise she would never with a straight face say that it is easy.  Child rearing is one of the hardest jobs in the world.  You worry that every little thing that you do is going to influence them (which in most cases is true) and you second guess the choices that you make when something goes wrong.  I would love to see her try to comfort a small child that is feeling ill, especially when the older sibling is in the other room pulling all the toilet paper off the roll while you are attending to the child that wants nothing else but the comfort of mommy due to a fever or cold.

    I have strong feelings that children should have a stay at home parent if at all possible.  I have no issue with a man being that parent that stays at home, if that is what works better for that particular family.  I am a realist, I understand perfectly well that it isn’t always an option.  Life doesn’t always work out that way.  Nor do I dismiss that fact that many women today want to work even if they could financially stay at home.  They feel they are a better parent by going out into the world and being productive at a job and bringing home at least part of the family income.  I do happen to believe it is best for the child to have a parent who is involved in the life of the child.  But I also understand that not all stay at home parents are good ones.  It all comes down to putting the work and the effort into raising a child to become a happy and productive adult.  That is something that can be done in a variety of ways and there is no one “right” way.  Every child is an individual and has their own needs that don’t necessarily line up with the needs of other families.

    But it is more than just a little insulting to hear another woman say that children and marriage is what keeps you from being exceptional.  For some people being exceptional is nothing more than being the best possible parent and the person who always had a clean home that was ready for anyone that dropped by.

    I also must ask is the women who clean homes for a living lacking in the exceptional department as well?  After all they aren’t doing much of anything according to this logic.  I guess they are just serfs who live to make the exceptional women such as she is lives a little easier so they can spend their energy being exceptional at their much more important jobs.  Seriously, how elitist is this woman?  There is no other way to take her little post other than a person who cleans homes is loser.

     I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this. It’s because women secretly like to talk about how hard managing a household is so they don’t have to explain their lack of real accomplishments. Men don’t care to “manage a household.” They aren’t conditioned to think stupid things like that are “important.”

    Feminists seem to have this real disconnect when it comes to men.  That somehow they don’t feel the guilt and they don’t question what they are doing and how it affects their families.  Many men who travel a great deal with their jobs feel just as guilty that they aren’t there for their kids.  They don’t like missing virtually every soccer game.  They also seem to have this disconnect that children don’t feel like something is missing from their lives because their dads are too busy working to have time for the little things that matter to them.  I guess those little goals and events that kids feel are important aren’t exceptional enough for Ms. Glass.

    My brother, who grew up with a father that didn’t attend games or pretty much anything else, promised himself he would be a different kind of dad.  He has three boys that were all active in sports while they were growing up.  He rarely missed a practice, let alone a game.  My eldest nephew would sometimes get crazy over the fact that his father was “always around”.  This kid also went to a private Catholic school.  He was involved with church group within the school.  One of the exercises they did in this group was to have the kids sit face to face and tell the other kid what they envied about them.  One of the kids told my nephew how jealous he was that his father was always at the games.  You see his father was an executive with some big corporation that required long hours and travel.  Yes, those kids had financial advantages that my nephew certainly didn’t have, as my brother is on a much more limited budget, but what he got in return was time.  Which is really more exceptional?  I would have to say that putting the time into being the very best parent you can be as opposed to having a big house and large bank account is the far better choice.  But what do I know?  Obviously my life wouldn’t rate as exceptional.

     
    • bafriyie 7:28 PM on 01/27/2014 Permalink | Reply

      I’m glad you wrote this post. Nobody really knows what it’s like to be a stay at home mom (I’m a university student) until they’ve actually done it themselves. True feminism, not the kind that bashes other women for having kids, has made it possible for women to get an education and be respected. However, no woman should feel like less of a woman if he decides to stay at home with the kids.One of the reasons for the feminist movement was because women weren’t getting the credit they deserved for their domestic work.

      Nowadays, where women are working, and successfully at that, women who stay at home are looked down upon. A stay at home mom i boring, lazy, uneducated and dependent. But it’s not fair to make those assumptions. A woman should be respected for her decision to have kids because it is her decision. A woman who decides to work should be respected because that’s her decision as well. The point is that you shouldn’t be ridiculed for your choices, nor should you endure ridicule from a human who overgeneralizes and assumes the condition of thousands of women.

      This reminds me of a quote from Mona Lisa Smile:
      “You didn’t come to Wellesley to help people find their way. You came to Wellesley to help people find *your* way. “

    • Me 6:49 AM on 01/28/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Thanks for this rebuttal to Ms. Glass’ post. I read her post several days ago and cannot help but think that feminism is doing more harm for “gender equality” than good. I do not feel opressed because I am a SAHM. It feels pretty darn awesome raising three little people, molding them into larger versions of themselves who will be unleashed in the grown up world all too soon (it really is over a decade away, but time flies by so fast with kids).

      • just a conservative girl 9:35 AM on 01/28/2014 Permalink | Reply

        the thing is, she isn’t going after SAHM, she is going after all moms. This isn’t about staying at home, her statements were about being a mother. A question that she doesn’t answer is who then gives birth to all these exceptional women if no one has children?

    • Flon 5:32 PM on 01/28/2014 Permalink | Reply

      You are right about teachers. That is why I want to become a teacher, instead of getting some “corporate job”. I want a job where I am truly helping other people.

      Also, its very true that avoiding marriage is not an automatic pathway to success. All the never-married women that I know work at totally average jobs, some do okay, but others can barely support themselves. One of them moved into a shelter recently. She is over 50 now and not finding the same job opportunities anymore, and is also finding it harder to date at her age. Since she did not have kids, I often wonder who will take care of her when she gets older and her health declines. There doesn’t seem to be anyone in the picture right now, except for a few social “friends” here and there. Although I realize this is anecdotal, there must be lots of women in her same position in life. Women just like her, who are suffering for lack of family.

  • just a conservative girl 2:29 PM on 01/03/2014 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , feminism, intercourse, ,   

    Any Inkling I May Become a Feminist is Now Gone 

    While it is true that wasn’t likely to happen in any event, this certainly cured me.  A friend of mine pointed out this blog post to me, and oh my.  I honestly don’t know what to say about this except there sure is a great deal of crazy out there.

    PIV is always rape, Ok?

    It took me a little while, but I finally figured out that PIV is Penis in Vagina.  Not allowed in the feminist world apparently.  Which I am very confused by.  I was always led to believe that a main tenet of feminism is that you get to “have sex like a man”.  Apparently we were wrong for thinking that.  Intercourse, bad.  Always.  Just bad.

    First, well intercourse is NEVER sex for women. Only men experience rape as sexual and define it as such. Sex for men is the unilateral penetration of their penis into a woman (or anything else replacing and symbolising the female orifice) whether she thinks she wants it or not – which is the definition of rape: that he will to do it anyway and that he uses her and treats her as a receptacle, in all circumstances – it makes no difference to him experiencing it as sexual. That is, at the very least, men use women as useful objects and instruments for penetration, and women are dehumanised by this act. It is an act of violence.

    I am surprised the word empowered doesn’t appear in this paragraph.  After all that is what feminism is supposed to be, right?  Empowering women.  So ladies if you like to have a little somethin’ somethin’ from time to time, you are anti-woman.  Hear that.  No more penetration for you.  Apparently if you want to have a baby:

     Penetration of the penis into the vagina is completely unnecessary for conception.

    Well yes that is true.  One doesn’t have to have intercourse to become pregnant.  That can happen if a couple uses the “pull out” method of birth control or if a man doesn’t quite make it to the “promiseland” before finishing the deed.  You can absolutely get pregnant without intercourse.  But, speaking of pregnancy:

    As FCM pointed out some time ago, intercourse is inherently harmful to women and intentionally so, because it causes pregnancy in women. The purpose of men enforcing intercourse regularly (as in, more than once a month) onto women is because it’s the surest way to cause pregnancy and force childbearing against our will, and thereby gain control over our reproductive powers. There is no way to eliminate the pregnancy risk entirely off PIV and the mitigating and harm-reduction practices such as contraception and abortion are inherently harmful, too. Reproductive harms of PIV range from pregnancy to abortion, having to take invasive, or toxic contraception, giving birth, forced child bearing and rearing and all the complications that go with them which may lead up to severe physical and emotional damage, disability, destitution, illness, or death.

    Oh my, when you put it like that I wouldn’t want to have a baby either.  Bad, horrible, little creatures aren’t they?   While I suppose that some women have complications during childbirth, most don’t.  It is a relatively natural process that keeps the human race going.  Maybe that is a bad thing too.  Who knows?

    But I am impressed to hear a feminist say that abortion is inherently harmful to women.  After all you don’t hear that coming from that side of the aisle too often.  Normally it is their “right”.  I recently saw a photo of young boy, maybe six or seven holding a sign telling me to stay out of his mommy’s vagina.  Apparently the next nominee for Mother of the Year didn’t get the memo of how bad intercourse, birth control, and abortion are for women.  They must be a bad feminist, or at least very misguided.

    I am not going to go into detail here, but I would venture to say that most women find consensual sex to be pleasurable.  But alas, we have been programmed to believe that is true.

    There’s a reason men need to groom us into it, and why this grooming takes so long- because it’s so grossly violating and traumatising that we would otherwise never submit to intercourse. The only reason we may now not feelraped or have the impression we desired or initiated PIV, is because men broke down our barriers very skillfully and progressively from birth, breaking down our natural defences to pain and invasion, our confidence in our own perceptions and sensations of fear and disgust that tell us male sexual invasion is painful, harmful and traumatic.

    Through an all-pervasive and powerful male propaganda, they stuff our minds from infancy with the idea that PIV is normal, desirable and erotic, before we can even conceive of it as something horrifying, and make sure we never see any alternative to their lie – or that if we do, we can no longer take in the information, are punished for thinking and saying otherwise. The fact we may not immediately feel raped doesn’t mean it’s not rape, objectively speaking

    I guess we can add bad media, bad hollywood, bad culture.  All of which tells us that intercourse is a normal, healthy thing that both man and women can enjoy.  I personally think it is far better in a committed relationship between two people who love each other as opposed to scratching an itch, but that is neither here nor there in this conversation.  All.Bad.  All of it.

    Lastly, from a structural point of view, as a class oppressed by men, we are not in any position of freedom to negotiate what men do to us collectively and individually within the heterocage. Men, by whom we are possessed, colonised and held captive, are the sole agents and organisers of PIV. Men dominate us precisely so we can’t opt out of sexual abuse by them; intercourse is the very means through which men subordinate us, the very purpose of their domination, to control human reproduction.

    I guess just saying no doesn’t cut it.

    Seriously?  It is very hard to wrap my head around this type of thinking.  I have to assume this author is a lesbian or asexual.  Not to get into too much graphic detail here, but don’t lesbians use sex toys such as a vibrator?  I was always under the impression that they did.  Which is another reason that I have never fully understood being a lesbian.  If you are going to simulate sexual intercourse between a man and woman, why not just be with a man?  But I could be wrong.  Most of my homosexual friends are men, so this has never really come up in conversation for me before.  Nor would I necessarily want it to.  But that has been the impression that I have had for many years, maybe I got it from a movie or book.  I am not quite sure where I got it and I could very easily be wrong about it.

    In any event, this is reason 2,394,294 of why I will never a feminist.  You should read the comments.  Again, oh my.  Apparently people agree with her.

     
    • kerry 2:57 PM on 01/03/2014 Permalink | Reply

      I don’t think she’s doing it right…

    • Robert Stacy McCain (@rsmccain) 3:08 PM on 01/03/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Basically, the feminist’s unsuitability, undesirability and/or ineptitude for heterosexual relationship is reordered, via psychological projection and sour-grapes rationalization, into a hostility toward males that manifests itself in accusations of oppression, harassment, etc.

      One you take feminist rhetoric seriously, you recognize it as an ideology of madness — that is to say, mental disorder expressing itself in the form of politics. We can compare it only to other dangerous radicalisms of similarly psychopathic origins, e.g., the Khmer Rouge in Cambodia.

    • tlk244182 6:53 PM on 01/03/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Mental illness manifesting as an ideology. Yes. Clear and succinct.

    • mike 8:50 PM on 01/03/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Someone get her to a hospital quick! She’s got a textbook case of what Robert said above, and it’s contagious!

    • Bigfoot 12:15 PM on 01/04/2014 Permalink | Reply

      Now that the Clinton-Lewinsky affair is over 15 years in the past, feminists, who defended Mr. Bill by calling his actions “consensual”, have apparently decided that it’s now to safe to revert to their earlier “all sex is rape” mentality.

  • just a conservative girl 5:09 PM on 11/12/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    The Consequences of Feminism 

    Heaven help this country.   A real life ad about Obamacare.

    birth control obamacare

     
  • just a conservative girl 3:53 PM on 09/06/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    The Shaming of Mrs. Hall 

    I came across this blog post a few days ago and was working on a write-up about it.  Mrs. Hall is mom and she wrote an open letter to young women about the selfies that they post on social media in different stages of undress.  I never got around to hitting publish on it.  I am glad that I didn’t because of the storm that this has caused.

    As usual feminists have taken a disliking to Mrs. Hall and her words.  She is slut shaming and blaming the victim for any potential sexual abuse that may come into their lives.   Now Mrs. Hall did not such thing.  Her advice was simply that maybe teenage girls should be more aware of the dangers of social media and putting half-naked pictures of yourself isn’t a good idea.

    The thing that I never understood about the feminist movement is that they claim that they don’t want to be treated like a sex object they then cry foul when you point out that showing your boobs to complete strangers is exactly what makes you a sexual object to some.

    From Jezebel:

    “Respect everyone regardless of their gender/sexuality/appearance,” she might’ve said. “Don’t worry! It’s okay if you have sexual feelings! You’re a sexual being! Girls are too. That doesn’t mean you can treat them like objects. You and you alone are responsible for your thoughts and actions. Get over this Madonna-whore complex while you still can.”

    Now what she actually said was:

    I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.

    I get it – you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout.  What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.

    She was commenting on how these young women are posing into positions that make them look like a sexual object in various stages of undress.

    Teaching your daughters to have some modesty is not slut shaming nor is it remotely close to saying they are responsible if they happen to get raped.  It is saying to them that the most important thing that they have is themselves.  It has value and that value is incalculable.  There is no monetary thing that can replace your body, your self-respect, your emotions, and everything else that makes you human.

    Now I have always said that we teach our daughters to be careful when they are out at parties where others are drinking.  That behavior can put you in danger.  It doesn’t mean that you deserve what happens to you, it means why put yourself in that position when it can be so easily avoided?  It is far less likely that young men will be raped.  But that doesn’t mean we don’t tell our sons that they should not be in those positions either.  We would should be teaching all of our children that their actions have consequences.

    I have been thinking about some posts I have done in the past, the lawsuit filed by Yale students about sexual misconduct that occurred at an off campus Naked Party where people were drinking heavily.  Knock me over with a feather, I am shocked, shocked I say to hear that there was sexual misconduct going on.  That doesn’t mean that the young men involved should get a pass.  If they committed a crime they should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.  But I would use this story as a teachable moment to young women and explain that when you are in this environment and you are drinking, bad things may happen to you.  Avoid the whole thing by not going to a naked party.  I am not saying  they deserved to be raped and/or assaulted.  Young adults, drinking, and sex is not a really good combination.

    But of course the feminazi’s of the world turned this into you are tempting my son to be unpure.  What she was actually trying to get across to these girls is if you don’t want to be treated like a sexual object, don’t act like one.  We are all human and sex and sexual feelings is part of our humanity.  Women and men think differently.  We just do.  Those different ways of reacting and thinking sometimes lead us to not understand the intentions of others.   This harkens me back to post about the New York Times article on Penn State and the Hook Up Culture.  A young women in that article flat-out said that if she started to sober up a little and realized she didn’t want to have sex, she would just drop to her knees and open her mouth to get it over with.  Is that rape?  No, it isn’t.  It is a young woman who made a series of bad choices that ended up with her on knees to gracefully find a way out of sex after a night of drinking.

    These are the types of things that Mrs. Hall is trying to warn young women about.  You make these choices, thinking they are innocent and wont’ cause any harm, and then find yourself in a dorm room on your knees performing oral sex on a man that you don’t care about at all.  That isn’t empowerment young ladies.  You have been used for sex.  That is exactly what makes men look at you as a sexual object.  No one is saying stay a virgin until you get married.  Or at least I am not.  That is an individual choice that all of must make for our own reasons.  What people like myself and Mrs. Hall are saying is that if you act a certain way, don’t be shocked when you get treated that way.  It shouldn’t be a surprise.

    Here is a funny example of what Mrs. Hall was discussing.  Please note, I don’t know how serious the injuries to the young woman was.  I hope that since the video was posted she suffered only minor burns.  But if you look closely you will see a bottle and shot glass on the table.  Someone put on that video camera.  Someone posted that video.  Please dont’ tell me that young woman didn’t wanted to be looked at as sexy, as someone you may want to hang with, dance with, most likely have sex with.  No one else made her an object except for herself.  This is what Mrs. Hall is trying to warn teenage girls about.

     

     

     
  • just a conservative girl 10:17 AM on 07/27/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    Photo of the Day – Feminist Hate on Prince George Edition 

    prince george

     
    • signpainterguy 12:45 PM on 07/27/2013 Permalink | Reply

      Such sickness ! And to make it worse, they MUST shout it to the world !

    • Lorenzo T Neal 3:05 PM on 07/27/2013 Permalink | Reply

      Reblogged this on Pastor Lorenzo's Blog and commented:
      While I am not a fan of the royal family, some of the tweets about the baby’s gender being wrong is just sad and sickening. I’d never thought we’d be in a world where people actually are upset a male babies being born…oh well

      • just a conservative girl 6:17 PM on 07/27/2013 Permalink | Reply

        Male babies are fine as long as they are transgender or gay.

        • MeadIsYummy 11:10 PM on 05/03/2014 Permalink | Reply

          go die in a fire retarded bitch.

  • just a conservative girl 1:49 PM on 07/24/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    UPenn and the Hook-Up Culture 

    About a week ago I came across this article from The New York Times on the hook-up culture on the campus of Penn.  It is a very long article and very sad.  This article epitomizes why “feminism” is horrible for women in particular and society in general.

    “We don’t really like each other in person, sober. We literally can’t sit down and have coffee.”

    Says a young, obviously intelligent young woman who is only known as A.  You can’t sit down and have a conversation with this young man but you can take off your clothes and share the most important thing that you have, your body.  There is no emotional connection whatsoever, it is just scratching an itch.  It seems the reality that you are putting yourself in a position for unplanned pregnancies that likely end in abortion as well as STD’s doesn’t even enter into the equation.

    One of the things that makes us human is our emotion.  But it seems that in order to be part of the whole feminist movement that is something that you need to put aside in order to achieve your goals.  What is the point of achieving anything if it costs you the most basic part of your humanity?

    Instead, she enjoyed casual sex on her terms — often late at night, after a few drinks, and never at her place, she noted, because then she would have to wash the sheets.

    Heaven forbid you have to wash the sheets.  I mean, doesn’t she have to wash the sheets at some point anyway?

    Increasingly, she said, many privileged young people see college as a unique life stage in which they don’t — and shouldn’t — have obligations other than their own self-development.

    While it is perfectly understandable that someone would want to take some time and figure out where they fit in the world, it seems that becomes the only thing that really matters.  Is that where we want to young women to head?  There are many people out there that for whatever the reasons, don’t want to be married.  That is fine and it is a personal choice.  But the underside of this behavior is that you never learn how to bond to someone, everything becomes disposable.  Doesn’t that make it that much harder to make a marriage work?  Marriage is different things to different people.  Each couple has to find their own way and figure out works for them.  But there is no way around this, marriage is a series of compromises.  You can’t have what you want when you want it 100% of the time and expect that marriage to work.  Sometimes your spouse is given a great job offer that requires to you and your family to relocate.  Sometimes you need to get your children into a better school system, sometimes extended family will need assistance that requires you to make some changes to your everyday lives.  These things are going to happen over a period of a marriage and weighing those choices isn’t always easy, but is necessary in order to make the relationship work.  It won’t always be about you.  That is just how it is.

    “I don’t want to go through those changes with you. I want you to have changed and become enough of your own person so that when you meet me, we can have a stable life and be very happy.”

    Her youth and inexperience is showing.  As you age, your ability to be flexible gets harder not easier.  As I said, marriage is a series of compromises.  The older you get the less likely you are to make those compromises.

    “I’m a true feminist,” she added. “I’m a strong woman. I know what I want.”

    At the same time, she didn’t want the number of people she had slept with printed, and she said it was important to her to keep her sexual life separate from her image as a leader at Penn.

    “Ten years from now, no one will remember — I will not remember — who I have slept with,” A. said. “But I will remember, like, my transcript, because it’s still there. I will remember what I did. I will remember my accomplishments and places my name is hung on campus.”

    Really?

    A friend of hers, who attended a nearby college and did have a serious boyfriend, said that she felt as if she were breaking a social taboo. “Am I allowed to find the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with when I’m 19?” she said. “I don’t really know. It feels like I’m not.”

    How sad is it that young women today are made to feel that they are bad people because they are choosing love?

    Another young woman who arrived on campus a virgin says:

    “It’s kind of like a spiral,” she said. “The girls adapt a little bit, because they stop expecting that they’re going to get a boyfriend — because if that’s all you’re trying to do, you’re going to be miserable. But at the same time, they want to, like, have contact with guys.” So they hook up and “try not to get attached.”

    Now, she said, she and her best friend had changed their romantic goals, from finding boyfriends to finding “hookup buddies,” which she described as “a guy that we don’t actually really like his personality, but we think is really attractive and hot and good in bed.”

    One of the points of the article is that young women are driving the hook-up culture because they are strong young women who know what they want.  But do they?  Or have they just accepted that this is reality and stopped looking  for anything else?

    The hook-up culture that seems to be fueled by alcohol also puts young women in the position to be sexually assaulted at higher rates.

    “You go in, and they take you down to a dark basement,” Haley, a blond, pink-cheeked senior, recalled of her first frat parties in freshman year. “There’s girls dancing in the middle, and there’s guys lurking on the sides and then coming and basically pressing their genitals up against you and trying to dance.”

    Dancing like that felt good but dirty, and like a number of girls, Haley said she had to be drunk in order to enjoy it. Women said universally that hookups could not exist without alcohol, because they were for the most part too uncomfortable to pair off with men they did not know well without being drunk. One girl, explaining why her encounters freshman and sophomore year often ended with fellatio, said that usually by the time she got back to a guy’s room, she was starting to sober up and didn’t want to be there anymore, and giving the guy oral sex was an easy way to wrap things up and leave.

    Well doesn’t that sound empowering?  I know that is how I want my sexual experiences to be.

    In November of Haley’s freshman year, a couple of months after her first tentative “Difmos,” or dance-floor makeouts, she went to a party with a boy from her floor. She had too much to drink, and she remembered telling him that she wanted to go home.

    Instead, she said, he took her to his room and had sex with her while she drifted in and out of consciousness. She woke up with her head spinning. The next day, not sure what to think about what had happened, she described the night to her friends as though it were a funny story: I was so drunk, I fell asleep while I was having sex! She played up the moment in the middle of the night when the guy’s roommate poked his head in the room and asked, “Yo, did you score?”

    Only later did Haley begin to think of what had happened as rape — a disturbingly common part of many women’s college experience. In a 2007 survey funded by the Justice Department of 6,800 undergraduates at two big public universities, nearly 14 percent of women said they had been victims of at least one completed sexual assault at college; more than half of the victims said they were incapacitated from drugs or alcohol at the time.

    The close relationship between hooking up and drinking leads to confusion and disagreement about the line between a “bad hookup” and assault. In 2009, 2010 and 2011, 10 to 16 forcible sex offenses were reported annually to campus security as taking place on Penn’s campus or in the immediate neighborhood.

    Sadly many of the young women in this study said that there were following the advice given to them by their moms.  This is what moms want for their daughters?  That is nothing short of tragic.  I know I wouldn’t want my daughter treated that way.

    Paula England, a sociologist at New York University, who led an online survey of 24,000 students at 21 universities called the Online College Social Life Survey, said that women tended to fare much better sexually in relationships than in hookups.

    “Guys don’t seem to care as much about women’s pleasure in the hookup, whereas they do seem to care quite a bit in the relationships,” Dr. England said. By contrast, women “seem to have this idea they’re supposed to be pleasing in both contexts.” In hookups, women were much more likely to give men oral sex than to receive it.

    Part of the reason men aren’t as focused on pleasing women in hookups, Dr. England said, is the lingering sexual double standard, which sometimes causes men to disrespect women precisely for hooking up with them.

    There is judgment from other women, too — two women said they had been rejected from sororities because of their sexual reputations. And technology has made it easier to spread gossip. One woman recalled a guy showing her an e-mail he had received on his fraternity Listserv, in which another guy described having sex with a girl in the bathroom at a club.

    “They’re not afraid to use names,” she said of the men, adding, “I’m sure there’s been a story about me on a Listserv. It happens to everyone.”

    Just lovely huh?  It happens to everyone?  It has never happened to me nor will it.  I don’t give young men a pass in this by any stretch of the imagination.  But this also has become part of the culture today to the point that men have also been conditioned to believe that this behavior is normal and “empowering”, so hey why not.  I hear from feminists all the time that we should be teaching young men to not rape.  Shouldn’t we also be teaching young women not to get to drunk and put yourself in the position that when you don’t have your full capacities that these things are more likely to happen?  Of course men shouldn’t sexually assault women, that is a given.  But we also need to tell young women the dangers of their actions.

    But there is some good news:

    For all the focus on hookups, campuses are not sexual free-for-alls, at Penn or elsewhere. At colleges nationally, by senior year, 4 in 10 students are either virgins or have had intercourse with only one person, according to the Online College Social Life Survey. Nearly 3 in 10 said that they had never had a hookup in college. Meanwhile, 20 percent of women and a quarter of men said they had hooked up with 10 or more people.

    According to one young woman who comes from a less privileged background has this to say:

    Mercedes, a junior at Penn who is on financial aid, said that at her mostly Latino public high school in California, it was the troubled and unmotivated students who drank and hooked up, while the honors students who wanted to go to college kept away from those things.

    When she went to Penn, she was surprised to see her elite classmates drinking, but even more surprised by the casual making out. She would go along with her friends to fraternity parties, but she refused to dance with strangers or to kiss anyone.

    “Sharing that side of myself with a stranger just seems very strange to me,” she said in September. “I mean, if you break it down, it’s a very strange thing to do.”

    Another young woman:

    In Catherine’s view, her classmates tried very hard to separate sex from emotion, because they believed that getting too attached to someone would interfere with their work. They saw a woman’s marrying young as either proof of a lack of ambition or a tragic mistake that would stunt her career.

    But Catherine noted that a handful of young women are starting to question that idea. In an article on Slate titled “Marry Young,” the writer Julia Shaw, who married at 23, said her generation was missing out on the support that young couples could provide each other as they faced the challenges of early adulthood.

    “Marriage wasn’t something we did after we’d grown up, it was how we have grown up and grown together,” she wrote of herself and her husband.

    As a teenager, Catherine had thought she would wait to get married until her late 20s or early 30s. But her college experiences had made her think that she would rather marry young than throw away a good relationship because it wasn’t the right time.

    That might mean having to pass up certain career opportunities, for geographic reasons. But Catherine thought that her peers underestimated how hard it was to find the right person to be with — as hard, perhaps, as finding the right job.

    “People kind of discount” how “difficult it is to find someone that you even remotely like, let alone really fall for,” she said. “And losing that can be just as impractical and harmful to yourself, if not more so, than missing out on a job or something like that. What else do you really have at the end of your life?”

    If behaving like you don’t have emotion is the way to be a good “feminist”, I pass.

     
  • just a conservative girl 2:27 PM on 04/08/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    “Feminist” Donna Brazile on Margaret Thatcher’s Death 

    Okay, what did the #ironlady do to advance Great
    Britain and the world? Did she leave lasting footprints for women in politics? #justsayin Donna Brazile

    My response:
    @TenNamesLater @mchastain81 @donnabrazile I guess being the first female Prime Minister did nothing to “leave lasting footprints for women”

    I mean seriously, disagree with her politics, but to say she did nothing to help women in the political spectrum is simply silly.  I used to think that although I disagreed with her politically, she was an intelligent woman, but once you follow her on twitter you see some of the ridiculous that comes from her thought process.

    This is the problem I have with feminism.  It isn’t about “empowering” women.  It is really about forcing your political viewpoint on them.  There are many things about Margaret Thatcher that people on the left agree with.  For one, she was firm believer in the medical system in the U.K. as well as providing safety nets for the poor.

     
  • just a conservative girl 9:19 AM on 01/09/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    R.I.P. America – All My Babie’s Mamas Set to Air on Oxygen 

    Just when you thought we couldn’t go lower than Honey Boo Boo, comes this news:

    The moral decline of our country continues and Oxygen is willing to capitalize on it.  Some rapper that I have never heard of, Shawty Lo, 35 (aptly named wouldn’t you say) has 11 children with 10 different woman.  At least 7 of which are willing to be filmed in this degrading series about their lives and most inappropriately the lives of their children as the new hit reality series.   Oh, and let us not forget the 19-year-old girlfriend who will be joining in on the fun too.  Hey if she marries the man she will have a step child that is the same age as her.  Ooh, a dream come true.

    Apparently he still continues relations with some of these women and obviously they all know about each other.  It will be a day in life of man trying to juggle 11 children and 10 woman.  What is not entertaining about that?

    I really enjoy the nicknames he has for the little women:

    E’Creia — “First Lady Baby Mama”
    Angela — “Fighter Baby Mama”
    Amanda — “Jealous Baby Mama”
    Sujuan — “Wanna-be Bougie Baby Mama”
    Tamara — “No-Drama Baby Mama”
    Serena — “Shady Baby Mama”
    Liana aka Pebbles — “Baby Mama From Hell”

    Tamara is so low drama that she is allowing herself and her child to be exploited on national tv for money.  Yipee!!!

    Of course there are the family groups that are collecting signatures to ask the station not to air this trash, but my question is where are the feminist groups and their outrage?  I mean I would think that they would fit to be tied over this, what exactly is empowering about hanging onto some man who obviously isn’t all that concerned with the best interests of these women?  At least one of these women had a second child with this man.  She didn’t seem to mind being treated like trash, or maybe she was stupid enough to think he would change his ways if the second child came along.

    Where are the black groups such as the NAACP?  How can this possibly be considered something that should be looked at as entertainment?  The black community does have a huge problem with single parenthood.  70% of all black babies are born to single mothers.  Study after study has proven beyond all doubt that raising a child in a single parent home is more likely to lead to a life of poverty.  After all there are only so many rappers with his level of sexual desire to go around.  Not all black women will find such a “good catch” as these women have.  Doesn’t this play into the stereotypes that we hear complaints about from civil rights “leaders” all the time?

    I think the black community needs to have a physician heal thy self moment and take a serious look at how they are willing to portray themselves and the culture they are creating for the next generation.  I also think that people who work in the entertainment industry needs to do the same.  I also think that anyone that is willing to watch this exploitation of women and children needs to seek treatment at their nearest mental health facility, do it quickly, please.

     

     
    • theraineyview 11:47 AM on 01/09/2013 Permalink | Reply

      I’m glad I don’t have a TV. Why don’t these reality-show parents protect their own children from being put on display in such an unpleasant fashion? It goes back far before Honey Boo Boo (who one day will be a middle-schooler viewing the old footage and deciding what she thinks of adults and their values) but it just keeps sinking.

  • just a conservative girl 9:09 AM on 11/26/2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Here is Something to Add to your Christmas Wish List – The Vagina Mouse 

    I guess no self-respecting feminist should be without one of these.  Notice the play on terms, G Point.  These people are repugnant.

     
    • Don 11:38 PM on 11/26/2012 Permalink | Reply

      I call foul!!! I want equal time!!! This company needs to sell Joysticks as well!!!!!

  • just a conservative girl 1:53 PM on 10/02/2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Why Do Liberals Think That Women Are Nothing More than Sex Objects? 

    President Obama’s Tumbler page  has had this post on it:

    Shortly after I took a screen capture of it, the page was removed.  But make no mistake, this had to be approved before it went up.  This is about President’s fans, they get to add things they may like to share, but as I said, the campaign must approve it and allow it to post.

    My question is why is that liberals think that women are nothing more than sex objects?  I mean I have a nose, arms, legs, teeth, eyes and many other body parts that men have.  Aren’t they “lady parts” when they are mine as well?

    I have always been told that feminism is all about empowering a woman to make her choices and not limit herself.  But it seems to me that all it is really about is having sex and the ability to have an abortion if said sex results in a pregnancy that isn’t convenient.

    Why else would they keep pushing this meme that your birth control is going to be taken away?  We all know that it isn’t.  There is no proof whatsoever that Governor Romney has any history of involving the government in this issue.

    Haven’t women figured out yet that have been demeaned by this type of talk?  This is basically saying that you are not much else besides someone who needs birth control and access to abortions.  Now, if you take your birth control the way you are supposed to, the need for the latter drops dramatically.  Modern feminism is nothing more than turning you into a sex object.  Is it any wonder that the hook up culture on college campuses is so widespread?  Naomi Wolf’s new book asserts that rape is a crime against a women’s brain, so am really jumping the shark here by asking of feminism is really about being sexually active instead of what type of job you do?

    You have a brain too ladies, use it.  That is the lady part that you need the most.

     
    • theraineyview 9:19 PM on 10/02/2012 Permalink | Reply

      Actually, isn’t it the leftist agenda that took the lady parts out of a woman’s life — motherhood, romance, the art of being a hostess, the word “lady”?

    • fuzislippers 8:30 PM on 10/04/2012 Permalink | Reply

      They’ve distilled EVERYONE down to their parts: lady parts, black/brown skin, etc. This is a combination of Marxist nuttiness and political pandering: it’s not enough to separate the groups and then pit them against one another (or against the “oppressor”), they also have to ensure that the groups are “issues” voters. If these groups actually thought, at all, they’d know that they’re being minimized, denigrated, but they don’t.

      It’s no secret that feminosygists (today’s “feminists” are misogynists, there is no doubt about that), those on the left, DO see women as nothing more than vaginas, wombs, and boobs. It’s sad, it’s sick, it’s how they work. Cutter said, literally, that women “don’t care about what’s happened in the last four years.” You know why? Because in their world, ALL women care about is tax-payer-funded birth control and late term abortions. It’s sick. It’s insulting. It’s misogyny.

  • just a conservative girl 9:36 AM on 05/07/2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Women and the Sexual Revolution 

    The sexual revolution is not all that it is cracked up to be.  I tweeted earlier today

    40 years ago feminists burned bras saying they deserved to be treated as equals. In 2012 “Julia” depends on gov’t for life.

    But it is more than that, the “feminist” culture has led to breakdown of the family, abortion on demand, and higher levels of dependency on government for women.  It has the opposite effect that the likes of Gloria Steinem was fighting for.  Women have become more dependant on government, instead of relying on themselves.  It also takes away personal responsibility.  Abortion is so easy that women don’t think of the long-term effects anymore.  As Nike says, Just Do It.    The consequences of it will just be dealt with later.

     
  • just a conservative girl 10:04 AM on 05/01/2012 Permalink | Reply
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    I Need Feminism Because……. 

    This Tumbler page was pointed out to me, so I had to take a look.  The explanation of the page:

    Identify yourself as a feminist today and many people will immediately assume you are man-hating, bra-burning, whiny liberal. Perhaps a certain charming radio talk show host will label you as a “Feminazi” or “slut.” Even among more moderate crowds, feminism is still seen as too radical, too uncomfortable, or simply unnecessary. Feminism is both misunderstood and denigrated regularly right here on Duke’s campus. We, the 16 women of Professor Rachel Seidman’s course on Women in the Public Sphere, have decided to fight back against these popular misconceptions surrounding the feminist movement. Our class was disturbed by what we perceive to be an overwhelmingly widespread belief among students that today’s society no longer needs feminism. In order to change this perception on campus, we have launched a PR campaign for feminism. We aim to challenge existing stereotypes surrounding feminists and assert the importance of feminism today.

    Feminism is mainly about abortion.  If you are pro-life you have automatically given up your feminist entrance card.  You get called a man with breasts.  (Don’t men technically have breasts too?)

    Here are some of my favorites:

    I am 21 years old and still scared to go out drinking and be blamed if something happens to me

    it is socially acceptable for me to wear a suit to my formal, but if my male counterpart were to wear a dress, they would be ridiculed to no end  Feminism is about men wearing dresses, who knew?

    -I’m tired of hearing that I have no self-respect based on how I dress or who I sleep with.

    -I’m tired of hearing “Oh, so you want to see men get screwed in society?” When I talk about feminism.

    -I’m tired of Kitchen and “Sammich” jokes.

    -I’m tired of hearing how I should give up on my dreams and become a stay at home mother.

    -I’m tired of hearing that I suck for not wanting to have kids and having it be because “It’s your job as a woman.”  Sweety, I think it is perfectly fine that you don’t want to have children.  I will even put some cash for your birth control fund if Obamacare gets overturned.

    I shouldn’t have to be on guard, boarder line paranoid at all times walking down the street by myself in broad daylight. Huh?  Where do you live?

    I don’t want to lose my last name if I marry my boyfriend. I love my family, and my name means alot to me. My family and friends are relatively progresssive, so they’re ok with is in theory, but then the question always comes: what about the kids? Well ASSUMING we have kids, which is a pretty big assumption, I don’t want to have a different last name. Our society may be patriarchal, but if they come from my body they will have my name. Everyone, and I mean everyone, has told me that children should have their father’s name…why? They are genetically both of us, but they come out of me. I will carry them inside myself the first nine months of their existence. Why should their father be privileged? Anyway, our solution was to make up our own last name. I will still publish and teach under my name, but legally we will start new lineage that doesn’t privilege either parent. Some of my friends like this, most people think we’re being too sensitive. This is just one example of why I need feminism.  Wait I think her feminism card might just get rejected, she admitted that life begins at conception!!

    ‘I need feminism because I worry that I’m “crazy” when I get upset.’

    I need feminism because queer women and women of color are still often excluded from and shamed in mainstream feminism.  Oops, she let the cat out of the bag, feminists are racist homophobes.  They must be the republican brand of feminists.

    I get looked at strangely by my “feminist” friends for being a part of the BDSM community. In my opinion, as long as the sex is mutual and pleasurable for both parties, enjoying being tied up and dominated shouldn’t make me non-feminist or “working against the cause”  Oh, kinky sex gets your feminism card taken away too apparently.  I thought they were the accepting ones.

    There are 74 pages of this.  Too Funny

     
    • Kerry 10:25 AM on 05/01/2012 Permalink | Reply

      I need feminism like a fish needs a bicycle. What a load if self-indulgent BS.

  • Sherry 9:06 AM on 03/02/2012 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , feminism, Rush Limbaugh   

    Vapors for the Left 

    For those irony impaired, yesterday Rush Limbaugh poked fun at the utter farce that our society has become.

    After Georgetown law student and “reproductive rights activist” Sandra Fluke — told sympathetic policy-makers that the administration’s so-called contraception mandate should stand … because her peers are going broke buying birth control, Rush suggested that if women were going to demand that they be provided free birth control for their sexual appetites, that the payers ought to get something in return. After all, demanding money for sex is an old profession. It was brutal satire of what was an absurd proposal.

    Quoting Rush:

    “So, Ms. Fluke, and the rest of you Femi-Nazis, here’s the deal: If we are going to pay for your contraceptives and, thus, pay for you to have sex, we want something for it. And I’ll tell you what it is. We want you to post the videos online so we can all watch.”

    The media promptly went insane. According to NBC’s William’s on last night’s news, women were outraged at Rush’s cruel painting of this poor defenseless law student as a prostitute.

    Mind you, a grown woman testifying before Congress that she wants them to force institutions that don’t believe in contraception to pay for her and anyone else like her to be able to have seemingly consequence free sex as often as she and anyone else who wants to likes, is NOT outrageous. Is NOT shameful. Is not something which should give anyone serious pause.

    But suggesting that instead of simply being cheap (morally and fiscally), she ought to “put out” something in return for goodies she demands? THIS tarnishes her reputation? The twitterverse exploded. “How shameful!” Yes. I agree, how awful to women. I feel faint. Heavens to Betsy!…What vulgarity! My poor ears. They’ve been befouled. I need smelling salts. How is a woman who can’t manage her affairs (sexually or fiscally) an empowered feminist? She’s still demanding someone pay for her, take care of her. She’s still a kept woman, or alternatively if that is too harsh, she’s about as emancipated as a confirmed spinster in a knitting bee.

    Memo to all of you moonbat women out there: Don’t want to be referred to as anything but a lady? Act like nothing other than one.

     
    • just a conservative girl 10:43 AM on 03/02/2012 Permalink | Reply

      This is a woman who very carefully chose Georgetown. She knew exactly what she was doing when she filled out her applications. If she got into Georgetown she more than likely could have gotten into a number of other law schools that are just as good that did provide birth control with their insurance.

      What truly amazes me is that they think we don’t have the intelligence to see through there false claims. $1,000 per year for birth control? Even CBS looked into what it cost in the DC area and can’t come up with a scenario that it would cost that much.

    • Sherry 10:47 AM on 03/02/2012 Permalink | Reply

      And didn’t we just learn a few weeks ago that Planned Parenthood will pass out birth control like pez candy to anyone who needs it? What, she’s smart enough to go to Georgetown but not smart enough to Google Cheap Birth Control?

      • just a conservative girl 10:57 AM on 03/02/2012 Permalink | Reply

        Yeah, I did google it. 4 PP offices within ten miles of campus.

        I understand that she is standing up for something she believes in. I don’t agree with it, but I admire people standing up. But how is doing her cause any good when it takes less than a minute to blow her claims to bits?

    • Sherry 11:09 AM on 03/02/2012 Permalink | Reply

      It isn’t, but the left isn’t used to anyone “fact checking” their dog and pony shows to advance their agenda.

  • backyardconservative 2:46 PM on 09/01/2011 Permalink | Reply
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    Can abortion make you suicidal? 

    Feminists played on the sympathies of earlier generations by raising the specter of the back-alley abortion with a hanger. Since then we’ve seen millions murdered in the womb, and the horror of the Philly clinic for mothers and babies alike.

    But what of the social pathology associated with the act? Even Norma McCorvey/Jane Roe herself regretted her abortion, though it took years. Now women can see the baby develop in the womb early on. Preemies are born at younger ages than those aborted. How can this all be denied by a thinking person?

    Now British researchers have concluded a major study, upending prevalent American ones:

    An important meta-analysis published today in the prestigious British Journal of Psychiatry demonstrates that nearly 10% of mental health problems in women are directly attributable to abortion.  “Abortion and mental health: quantitative synthesis and analysis of research published 1995-2009,” by Priscilla Coleman of Bowling Green University, shows that women with an abortion history have an 81% increased risk of mental health problems and 155% increased risk of suicide.  This meta-analysis combines 22 studies of 877,181 women, 163, 831 of whom have had abortions.  A meta-analysis is an especially powerful type of study because it includes a large number of subjects, and by combining studies is much more reliable than a single study.

    This review, which is larger than any study to date, contradicts the recent and biased and less systematic review by the American Psychological Association, which fails to find a relationship between mental health problems and abortion.  The new meta-analysis also contradicts the stance of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), which has been silent on the mental health impact of abortion in its official publications despite overwhelming evidence over the last two decades of abortion’s adverse effects.

    Ignore the evidence at the risk of even women’s health, the gaping loophole of the abortion at all costs crowd.

    P.S. And while giving the Black Panthers a pass at the polling place–where they were actually blocking access and brandishing billy clubs, the Obama Justice Dept. is aggressively going after pro-life protesters at abortion clinics.

     
    • telltaleimages 3:22 PM on 09/01/2011 Permalink | Reply

      I suggest you go back and read this paper thoroughly. The authors are not nearly so sure of the strength of the findings as you appear to be. They describe the link as statistically ‘modest’ and ‘small’.

      If you are as familiar with this study as you claim to be, in the interests of fairness you should also mention that the study has been heavily criticised for including data from abortions performed for ANY reason at all – including abortions performed on embryos that were simply not viable, i.e., had no chance of living to birth or after birth, and embryos that, had they been allowed to continue developing, would have resulted in the death of the mother. It is unsurprising that women who found themselves in these situations would report an increased incidence of poor mental health and so skew the data in the direction of the effect found.

      You should also mention, in the interests of honesty, that the authors also noted that the effect size they found for increased mental health disorders after abortion was similar to that found in women who had suffered miscarriages!

      • backyardconservative 5:23 PM on 09/01/2011 Permalink | Reply

        They did find it statistically significant though. Perhaps more studies will be done–but this was a meta, more reliable than a single study.

        I think it’s fair to include abortions for any reason. It’s difficult to get into the WHY of the suicidal beyond that. I can posit an opposite explanation to the ones you come up with. That will take more study but this one is on the record.

      • just a conservative girl 6:05 PM on 09/01/2011 Permalink | Reply

        I find it very interesting that you seem to find a big difference between an abortion and a miscarriage. It is all the same thing, the baby is dead.

        Also, there are plenty of mothers who carry to term children with health issues and some even go ahead with a pregnancy even when told it endangers their health. Tim Tebow’s mother’s for example. So to say that skews the numbers really doesn’t make sense. The only way it makes sense is to someone who thinks that abortion in those circumstances is the correct way of dealing with the problem.

    • telltaleimages 8:15 PM on 09/01/2011 Permalink | Reply

      I think the difference in approaches (between myself and yourselves) lies in the fact that I’m not American, I live in Europe. In Europe abortion is simply not the issue it is in some parts of the US If you were to hold a referendum with a view to banning abortion in any western European country it would be defeated very heavily, no question.

      Medical procedures always incur risk. If you were to look at mental health outcomes after any type of invasive procedure, whether elective or not, you would, I’m sure, find negative mental health outcomes compared to pre-procedure. So the question I would ask is, why on earth single out terminations for comment?

      backyard conservative – You state that meta studies are more reliable than single studies. This is wholly incorrect and I doubt if you would find a researcher in any scientific field or a statistician that would agree with you. Meta analyses are famously unreliable because no matter how you select the studies for the analysis you will always be adding large amounts of independent variables or ‘noise’ to the dataset. Meta analyses are used to identify possible trends for future research and not causal pathways. For example, there is no way that you could say that the increased risk of suicide found in the meta analysis is due to women having had a termination (and the authors make this point).

      The reason that including abortions performed for any reason is an error is because women who have abortions by choice might have differing underlying personalities and/or mental health histories than women who have abortions reluctantly, i.e., they have comorbidities such as cancer or severe diabetes and need a termination to save life. Or, women who have a termination due to rape or incest. Or, without reference to the age of the woman or girl. The many differing groups and subgroups may each react differently psychologically to the procedure.

      To put it another way, people who have surgery due to an underlying congenital condition may react differently psychologically to people who require the same surgery as a result of poor lifestyle choices. They may react differently is the surgery is performed as children, or adults. Or if they had children of their own etc etc There is no way you would include data from all groups in a study of mental health outcomes for liver transplant or cardiac valve replacement, for example. It just wouldn’t be good science. You’re trying to tease apart the effect that the surgery has – independent of the effects of age, history, marital status, lifestyle or genes.

      With a similar study of abortion, you’re trying to ascertain the effect that the procedure has, independent of the reasons that women present for the procedure. Otherwise you might as well just get a group 14 year-old girls who’ve become pregnant after being raped by their brothers and study them, or a group of women in their 30s who are happily married and have high status careers and don’t want children to interfere with their lifestyles, and study them – then confidently assume that all females who have terminations for any reason, and from any background will respond the same. They wouldn’t I’m sure – and so it wouldn’t be good science, would it? So you study all the available groups in isolation and make your conclusions accordingly.

      just a conservative girl – you refer to the subject of abortion and miscarriage as a ‘baby’. this is not medically true. The vast majority of terminations and miscarriages occur to a clump of nondifferentiated or semi-differentiated cells. In no way is this stage of development a ‘baby’. It is potentially a baby if a large number of physiological conditions are met. The fact that the majority of conceptions end in miscarriage, ususally at a very early stage with the mother unaware, shows that those physiological conditions are met comparitively rarely. You simply cannot call the product of a conception, a zygote, later an embryo, a baby, it is medically incorrect.

    • backyardconservative 9:15 PM on 09/01/2011 Permalink | Reply

      Interesting. Firstly, abortion is not health care. It is a lifestyle choice. Secondly, no one is talking about banning abortion. If Roe v. Wade were repealed by the Supreme Court the decision would then be left to each of the states. They can then pass the law that suits their values. Hopefully most would choose to protect innocent life. I myself am in favor of abortion for rape and incest, others may differ. As for saving the life of the mother, if she has a chronic condition she needs to be responsible in the first place. I know couples who have adopted for that reason. Abortion should not be used as birth control.

      As far as being from Europe, well, you have a unique situation there. Not enough population growth to sustain you as Europe. Immigration is another matter.

      Yes, meta analysis must be handled carefully. But I’d say this was significant and a trend identified.

      We are talking about life here and the taking of it.It’s not something that should be parsed as a procedure. That’s dehumanizing.

      And that’s the point.

  • backyardconservative 1:35 PM on 08/01/2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , , , feminism, , , ,   

    Another ObamaCare Ruling from on High at HHS 

    There’s a form of opt out for religious entities, but it’s not enough. Insurers must cover birth control with no copays:

    Generic versions of the pill are available for as little as $9 a month. Still, about half of all pregnancies are unplanned. Many are among women using some form of contraception, and forgetting to take the pill is a major reason.

    Not even having to pay for it will presumably enable even more forgetfulness. And more systemic abuse.

    This is not really healthcare either, it’s a lifestyle choice, though widely prevalent, but it’s not limited to what we most commonly think of as birth control:

    The requirement applies to all forms of birth control approved by the Food and Drug Administration. That includes the pill, intrauterine devices, the so-called morning-after pill, and newer forms of long-acting implantable hormonal contraceptives that are becoming widely used in the rest of the industrialized world.

    Coverage with no copays for the morning-after pill is likely to become the most controversial part of the change. The FDA classifies Plan B and Ella as birth control, but some religious conservatives see the morning-after drugs as abortion drugs. The rules HHS issued Monday do not require coverage of RU-486 and other drugs to chemically induce an abortion.

    And what this ruling does as well is increase costs–eventually leading to rationing health care to less politically correct people and real diseases.

    More. Catholic Vote: This Tryst Paid For By Taxpayers Like You

     
  • backyardconservative 12:10 PM on 07/07/2011 Permalink | Reply
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    More threats from the feminist left 

    Joan Walsh: “A Lot Is Not Known” About Bachmann’s Foster Children It’s predictable, but still shocking and sick when you see it.

    So was Michelle Bachmann somehow a slut for caring for children not her own?

    Top comment:

    My God!  This filthy extreme left Obamamaniac is really going to go after the foster children of Rep Bachman? I had to listen to this clip 3x to believe she actually said that. Obama’s children are off limits, but the extreme left is already planning to go after Rep Bachman’s children, and openly saying it publicly? I have never seen or heard anything as filthy or sleazy, and I’ve heard and seen a lot. Ms Walsh has hit a new low for the extreme left. I don’t know how you get dirtier than this. Obama should publicly reprimand her and tell the extreme left that people’s children are off limits, that is unless this started out of the White House?

      Bachmann’s closing on Romney even in New Hampshire, so she’s getting the Palin treatment. Good luck with that. Obama poll numbers lately. And those other inconvenient numbers.

     
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