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  • just a conservative girl 10:09 AM on 03/22/2013 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , Fairness, Massachusetts,   

    Everybody Gets a Pony – Honors Ceremony Cancelled to Celebrate Mediocrity 

    Ipswich Middle School in Massachusetts has decided in their infinite wisdom that honors ceremonies are just too harmful to the kids who didn’t make the cut.  I mean feelings being important as they are these days, it all makes sense right?  After all, why would we want children who didn’t do their homework on time, didn’t study for their tests, or not pay attention in class to feel badly right?  That just isn’t “fair”.  Fairness being the new buzz word of late and all, so I guess it has to filter down to our students.

    The statement reads in part:

    “The Honors Night, which can be a great sense of pride for the recipients’ families, can also be devastating to a child who has worked extremely hard in a difficult class but who, despite growth, has not been able to maintain a high grade point average,”

    I fully understand that some children, no matter how hard they work, will not make the cut.  This can happen for a variety of reasons, especially when you start introducing standardized multiple choice tests into the equation.  I am a person who doesn’t do well on multiple choice tests.  In college I explained this to my professors and most allowed me to answer questions that I didn’t quite comprehend in a written format.  So I get it.

    What I don’t get is that why are we asking those that did work hard and were able to maintain their GPA’s to suffer?  What we are actually telling these children is that a strangers feelings are more important than your hard work.  This isn’t how the real world works.  In the real world you are judged based on your own performance.  Does this principal believe that when these children get out into a working environment that they won’t be viewed based on their own performance?  Look, it is very possible in a work environment that someone tries and works hard, but is just unable to perform the necessary tasks that the job requires, and will eventually lose that job.  What this man is doing is setting up unrealistic expectations of what faces these children as they grow into mature adults.  The world isn’t fair.  Bad things happen to good people.  Good things happen to bad people.  That is life.  What you do is keep your own sense of integrity and morality, and work as hard as you can.  Some of the best things that come in life are the things that happen to you after you fail at something.  Those failures and how you handle them become the very essence of the person that you are.  This principal is cheating these kids of that experience at a young age.  That of course makes it harder for them to learn that lesson as they grow older.

    Parents in this school must stand up to this man and demand that their children be taught the hard lessons in life.  You will not always get your way, you will not always succeed the first time at everything you try.  The rewards that come in life normally come to those who work hardest for them.  It is about time that we, as a society, stop giving these children the idea that everyone gets a pony simply because they exist.

  • Sherry 8:38 AM on 04/20/2011 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: Fairness, , Life, Suffering   

    What is Required 

    Prompted by the recent madness over banned whiffleball, happy meals, bullying, and the hint at mandatory pre-school, Sherry’s rant for the day.   

    Somewhere in this mixed up century, we came to the deluded conclusion that if we pad enough of life, we’ll never get a skinned knee and that nothing of value can come from ever having experienced a bruise or a bump or a hurt feeling.

    Somewhere across time, we went from sticks and stones can break my bones but names can never hurt me to names can hurt me so anyone who names me as I do not wish to be named shall be stoned. Somewhere in recent history, we went quite mad as a society when we embraced the idea that while life isn’t fair, it should be and all unfairness not in our favor shall be deemed evil.

    Somehow we decided as a civilization that suffering has no purpose and no meaning and as such, should not be tolerated except when we can ascribe a value and a meaning. The actual meaning and value (by the way) must be readily accessible to everyone or it is a mere projection of wishful hopes and an overly optimistic coping mechanism.

    People in America can now control the air in their room, their side of the car, the firmness of their mattress and what TV they watch when. We have created a heightened sense of anxiety about everything because suddenly numbers rule everything. We watch the Dow spiral. We watch our calories. We measure our inhales and our exhales and the fat and salt content and sugar in grams, in milligrams, in ounces. We measure the minutes, we bill the hours and with all our knowledge, with all our access to knowledge, we still cannot create one minute more in the day nor can we guarantee that if we do everything perfectly, we won’t suffer. It is a giant dellusion to think otherwise but we constantly act shocked with life takes more effort, more commitment, or more energy than we wanted to give.

    Life has random elements, friendships that grow and those that die, weeds that take root, pounds unexpectedly stubborn and minutes that get lost. There are bills we forget about and ones that are bigger than we preanticipated and weather that rains out playoffs. There is always more to do and there are always people doing more and doing that more better than us. Sometimes, doing more isn’t better and sometimes we can do everything right and someone else will still win. Being constantly on alert to measure and weigh and anticipate everything still doesn’t mean everything won’t get screwed up when the lights finally go dark and the curtain finally rises. We freeze. We forget lines. We forget our place in the universe and we forget our primary job. We’re human.

    We spend much of our modern days trying to be free from want, from need, from all discomfort, from all we disagree with, from all pain, from all work, from all that requires the more from us that makes us human. Animals live within their limits. They conserve energy. They hunt when they are hungry. They do not eat when they are not. They sleep as they need. Their lives are measured by instinct and the physical limits of their being. Our lives exceed our instincts in all things. To be human is to have physical limits we ignore and mental and emotional limits we impose and not always have the wisdom or the instinct to know the difference.

    Our goal in life is not to not suffer; but to do, to have our body doing and our spirit being such that whatever unfairness we find, we make less painful, whatever injustice we suffer, we do not nurse, that our needs and wants are not mixed up, and that Our wants and Our needs do not dominate the landscape of our souls or how we pour out our lives. We are made for others. My youngest son woke this morning with a runny nose and rejected his normal breakfast of toast and cheerios until I held him and kissed his forehead constantly. This is what is required of us, not that we can cure the cold or eliminate the reality of colds, but that we can be close with and hold those who hurt for whatever reason. It is all that is required; that we let God do the measuring of our lives, and we be willing to live them to the fuller measure that is God’s.

    • just a conservative girl 9:31 AM on 04/20/2011 Permalink | Reply

      Too true. Life isn’t fair and as hard as the left tries they simply can’t make it so. You do the best that you can with what you have. Failure and mistakes are also very important lessons.

    • zillaoftheresistance 10:12 AM on 04/20/2011 Permalink | Reply

      Beautifully written, Sherry, and very well said. Life shouldn’t be about avoiding everything that may be painful or unpleasant, it should be about learning how to cope with things we can’t always control, and learning from all the bumps & scrapes we may encounter along the way.

    • Sherry 10:25 AM on 04/20/2011 Permalink | Reply

      Thank you very much!

    • iainswife 10:29 AM on 04/20/2011 Permalink | Reply

      Laura Bennet of Project Runway fame has a book out called “Didn’t I Feed You Yesterday?” which is pretty much the urbanite’s parenting guide to the Dangerous Book for Boys. Pretty awesome and gives you faith that there are still some practical, realistic and old-fashioned-but-sophisticated parents out there.

    • fuzislippers 4:45 AM on 04/21/2011 Permalink | Reply

      This is a great post! It’s disgusting that progressives are so eager to “protect” everyone at the expense of common sense and general, basic life lessons.

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