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  • just a conservative girl 3:53 PM on 09/06/2013 Permalink | Reply
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    The Shaming of Mrs. Hall 

    I came across this blog post a few days ago and was working on a write-up about it.  Mrs. Hall is mom and she wrote an open letter to young women about the selfies that they post on social media in different stages of undress.  I never got around to hitting publish on it.  I am glad that I didn’t because of the storm that this has caused.

    As usual feminists have taken a disliking to Mrs. Hall and her words.  She is slut shaming and blaming the victim for any potential sexual abuse that may come into their lives.   Now Mrs. Hall did not such thing.  Her advice was simply that maybe teenage girls should be more aware of the dangers of social media and putting half-naked pictures of yourself isn’t a good idea.

    The thing that I never understood about the feminist movement is that they claim that they don’t want to be treated like a sex object they then cry foul when you point out that showing your boobs to complete strangers is exactly what makes you a sexual object to some.

    From Jezebel:

    “Respect everyone regardless of their gender/sexuality/appearance,” she might’ve said. “Don’t worry! It’s okay if you have sexual feelings! You’re a sexual being! Girls are too. That doesn’t mean you can treat them like objects. You and you alone are responsible for your thoughts and actions. Get over this Madonna-whore complex while you still can.”

    Now what she actually said was:

    I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.

    I get it – you’re in your room, so you’re heading to bed, right? But then I can’t help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout.  What’s up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.

    She was commenting on how these young women are posing into positions that make them look like a sexual object in various stages of undress.

    Teaching your daughters to have some modesty is not slut shaming nor is it remotely close to saying they are responsible if they happen to get raped.  It is saying to them that the most important thing that they have is themselves.  It has value and that value is incalculable.  There is no monetary thing that can replace your body, your self-respect, your emotions, and everything else that makes you human.

    Now I have always said that we teach our daughters to be careful when they are out at parties where others are drinking.  That behavior can put you in danger.  It doesn’t mean that you deserve what happens to you, it means why put yourself in that position when it can be so easily avoided?  It is far less likely that young men will be raped.  But that doesn’t mean we don’t tell our sons that they should not be in those positions either.  We would should be teaching all of our children that their actions have consequences.

    I have been thinking about some posts I have done in the past, the lawsuit filed by Yale students about sexual misconduct that occurred at an off campus Naked Party where people were drinking heavily.  Knock me over with a feather, I am shocked, shocked I say to hear that there was sexual misconduct going on.  That doesn’t mean that the young men involved should get a pass.  If they committed a crime they should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.  But I would use this story as a teachable moment to young women and explain that when you are in this environment and you are drinking, bad things may happen to you.  Avoid the whole thing by not going to a naked party.  I am not saying  they deserved to be raped and/or assaulted.  Young adults, drinking, and sex is not a really good combination.

    But of course the feminazi’s of the world turned this into you are tempting my son to be unpure.  What she was actually trying to get across to these girls is if you don’t want to be treated like a sexual object, don’t act like one.  We are all human and sex and sexual feelings is part of our humanity.  Women and men think differently.  We just do.  Those different ways of reacting and thinking sometimes lead us to not understand the intentions of others.   This harkens me back to post about the New York Times article on Penn State and the Hook Up Culture.  A young women in that article flat-out said that if she started to sober up a little and realized she didn’t want to have sex, she would just drop to her knees and open her mouth to get it over with.  Is that rape?  No, it isn’t.  It is a young woman who made a series of bad choices that ended up with her on knees to gracefully find a way out of sex after a night of drinking.

    These are the types of things that Mrs. Hall is trying to warn young women about.  You make these choices, thinking they are innocent and wont’ cause any harm, and then find yourself in a dorm room on your knees performing oral sex on a man that you don’t care about at all.  That isn’t empowerment young ladies.  You have been used for sex.  That is exactly what makes men look at you as a sexual object.  No one is saying stay a virgin until you get married.  Or at least I am not.  That is an individual choice that all of must make for our own reasons.  What people like myself and Mrs. Hall are saying is that if you act a certain way, don’t be shocked when you get treated that way.  It shouldn’t be a surprise.

    Here is a funny example of what Mrs. Hall was discussing.  Please note, I don’t know how serious the injuries to the young woman was.  I hope that since the video was posted she suffered only minor burns.  But if you look closely you will see a bottle and shot glass on the table.  Someone put on that video camera.  Someone posted that video.  Please dont’ tell me that young woman didn’t wanted to be looked at as sexy, as someone you may want to hang with, dance with, most likely have sex with.  No one else made her an object except for herself.  This is what Mrs. Hall is trying to warn teenage girls about.

     

     

     
  • just a conservative girl 1:53 PM on 10/02/2012 Permalink | Reply
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    Why Do Liberals Think That Women Are Nothing More than Sex Objects? 

    President Obama’s Tumbler page  has had this post on it:

    Shortly after I took a screen capture of it, the page was removed.  But make no mistake, this had to be approved before it went up.  This is about President’s fans, they get to add things they may like to share, but as I said, the campaign must approve it and allow it to post.

    My question is why is that liberals think that women are nothing more than sex objects?  I mean I have a nose, arms, legs, teeth, eyes and many other body parts that men have.  Aren’t they “lady parts” when they are mine as well?

    I have always been told that feminism is all about empowering a woman to make her choices and not limit herself.  But it seems to me that all it is really about is having sex and the ability to have an abortion if said sex results in a pregnancy that isn’t convenient.

    Why else would they keep pushing this meme that your birth control is going to be taken away?  We all know that it isn’t.  There is no proof whatsoever that Governor Romney has any history of involving the government in this issue.

    Haven’t women figured out yet that have been demeaned by this type of talk?  This is basically saying that you are not much else besides someone who needs birth control and access to abortions.  Now, if you take your birth control the way you are supposed to, the need for the latter drops dramatically.  Modern feminism is nothing more than turning you into a sex object.  Is it any wonder that the hook up culture on college campuses is so widespread?  Naomi Wolf’s new book asserts that rape is a crime against a women’s brain, so am really jumping the shark here by asking of feminism is really about being sexually active instead of what type of job you do?

    You have a brain too ladies, use it.  That is the lady part that you need the most.

     
    • theraineyview 9:19 PM on 10/02/2012 Permalink | Reply

      Actually, isn’t it the leftist agenda that took the lady parts out of a woman’s life — motherhood, romance, the art of being a hostess, the word “lady”?

    • fuzislippers 8:30 PM on 10/04/2012 Permalink | Reply

      They’ve distilled EVERYONE down to their parts: lady parts, black/brown skin, etc. This is a combination of Marxist nuttiness and political pandering: it’s not enough to separate the groups and then pit them against one another (or against the “oppressor”), they also have to ensure that the groups are “issues” voters. If these groups actually thought, at all, they’d know that they’re being minimized, denigrated, but they don’t.

      It’s no secret that feminosygists (today’s “feminists” are misogynists, there is no doubt about that), those on the left, DO see women as nothing more than vaginas, wombs, and boobs. It’s sad, it’s sick, it’s how they work. Cutter said, literally, that women “don’t care about what’s happened in the last four years.” You know why? Because in their world, ALL women care about is tax-payer-funded birth control and late term abortions. It’s sick. It’s insulting. It’s misogyny.

  • just a conservative girl 8:25 PM on 06/21/2012 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: biology, , , pedophilia, , sexuality   

    Sandusky, Pedophilia, and Sympathy 

    I came across this OP/ED piece on CNN today.  The article is presented in a way that is somewhat misleading.  There is a picture of Jerry Sandusky and the headline reads Do Pedophiles Deserve Sympathy?  I clicked on it mainly because I wanted to see how someone may try to justify the behavior of that monster.  In a court of law he gets the benefit of the doubt, but in my book he is guilty as sin and deserves to rot.

    The article makes a clear distinction between someone who has abused a child and someone who has sexual urges towards young children.  Although, technically Sandusky is not a pedophile as his victims reached puberty.  But I am getting off point here.  The author is trying to say that pedophilia is something that cannot be chosen.  He is an associate professor of psychology in Canada.  His point is to ask and suggest that we, as a society, put mechanisms into place that will allow a non offending pedophile to get help without the fear of mandatory report laws.

    He talks about some programs that are already in place around the world and how that they seem to be effective.

    The best example of this effort is the Prevention Project Dunkelfeld in Germany, supported financially by private donation. It began with a media campaign aimed at people struggling to resist their sexual interests to children. By offering counseling and other services, it is expected that they can remain offense-free. Hundreds of people contacted the Dunkelfeld project after it was established. People from all over the world, including Austria, Switzerland and England, turned to the assistance.

    Another example is the Circles of Support and Accountability, which was developed in Canada. The programs are staffed by volunteers who have received training from professionals. They provide support to people who are under no mandate to attend but are nonetheless seeking help to not commit sexual offenses

    There is not enough data to look at long-term results, but short-term results seem to be promising.

    I have always admitted that I sometimes leave the reservation on “traditional” conservative thought.  Sexuality is one of these road trips.   I do believe that you are born with your sexual preference.  It is somehow hard-wired into you.  Now, having sex is a choice, at least in most cases.  But feelings of attraction are what they are.  I am 100% against gay marriage as well as civil unions.  I base that on my religious beliefs.  But I do think that you are either gay or you are not.  You are either attracted to children or you are not.   I don’t totally dismiss other factors, but I do think there is a biological function in there somewhere.  If it were simply lust as some say, it would happen more often.  Homosexuality only happens in about 10% of the population.  Pedophilia is even less common.

    Therefore, I don’t believe that things like pedophilia can be “cured”.  It can be controlled possibly, but not cured.  So does making help available to men (and rarely women) a bad thing?  Probably not, as long as they have not abused.

    But for me the real money quote in this article is this:

    Pedophilic men have significantly less white matter, which is the connective tissue that is responsible for communication between different regions in the brain. Pedophiles perform more poorly on various tests of brain function, tend to be shorter in height and are three times more likely to be left-handed or ambidextrous (characteristics that are observable before birth). Although nonbiological features may yet turn up to be relevant, it is difficult, if not impossible, to explain the research findings without there being a strong role of biology

    Is it just me or did this man just make another reason to abort babies that could “possibly” show signs of being a pedophile?  This is the continued slippery slope that is part and parcel on the left.  They “normalize” something, such as abortion, homosexuality, and the push to start normalizing pedophilia has already begun.  So is really that far of leap to think that this man is suggesting that aborting babies that show the “characteristics” of pedophilia would be an ethical thing?  I don’t think it is.

     
  • Sherry 12:35 PM on 05/10/2010 Permalink | Reply
    Tags: , sexuality   

    You’ve Come a Long Way Baby… 

    to practice one of the oldest professions. What is particularly telling is the quote from Veronica, “I don’t think I’ll regret it.” and her justification that she had signed up for the auction to earn money and challenge traditional perceptions about sex. She also doesn’t think it’s technically prostitution because she’s only doing this once.  So it’s “Easy” money.   I’m reminded of the quote attributed to Churchill, “We’ve established what type of woman you are, we are merely haggling about the price.”   Where is the feminist outcry?  About Explotation?  About demeaning women as only objects of pleasure for men? Property to be purchased? 

    In the 21 Century, maintaining one’s virginity out of a love of purity would be a challenge to modern sensibilities about sexuality.   Traditional perceptions about sex have been challenged since the beginning of time, and selling out to the highest bidder doesn’t advance any new argument, it only promotes the oldest lie in the book.  Whatever the man pays, and (what  type of person seeks this sort of experience via an online auction?), both the buyer and seller will be sold out cheap; the man and woman will have paid too much; both of them won’t recognize the true costs, and all involved have been sold a bill of goods that is defective. 

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/australiaandthepacific/australia/7704737/Anger-over-reality-television-virgin-auction.html

     
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